This paper dives into the messy work of writing (our) sexualities into our qualitative research. We suggest that even though queering research methods opens up new ways of conducting research and sharing a queer identity with research participants there are some limitations to both notions. One such limitation is that queer identities and practices are not synonymous, and that what may be queer to the participant might be considered "unqueer" by the researcher. Autoethnography, therefore, becomes one method in which to facilitate a queer research project given the spectrum of identities and practices. We draw on examples from our graduate research projects to illustrate the curious tension that exists among queerness, race, identity and education within social science inquiry. (Contains 1 footnote.)