This article shares findings from a small, largely qualitative empirical study of elite Australian boys' school alumni's perspectives on feminine gender and gender justice. The article focuses on the purported absence in these men's memories of learning about gender at school and the paradox that the research interviews are full of gender-related memories. Using the metaphor of the '(w)hole' to guide feminist poststructuralist analysis of data, the study considers how these interviews and playful, multiple forms of analysis and representation of data might provide resources for thinking differently about gender in schools and societies of the future.