Diffraction has emerged as a concept and methodology through opposing reflexivity. In this paper, I argue that reflexivity and diffraction are not external to each other. In contrast, I propose that they blur into each other and so we do not find ourselves using pure reflexivity or diffraction. Furthermore, I contend that categorically distinguishing reflexivity and diffraction can generate practices of exclusion and the unwitting reproduction of what we would like to avoid. Through letting reflexivity and diffraction intra-act, I develop my notion of a diffracted reflexivity. A reflexivity that acknowledges that in reflecting about ourselves we are not representing something but producing something; specifically, we are relating to ourselves in ways that are relationally, culturally and materially enabled, continuously producing ourselves and the world in that process of relating. Consequently, I propose to meta-reflexively focus the attention on the ways of relating that we enact and what they produce.