This paper is a reply to Mary L. Rasumussen's paper, "Critical Exchange: Religion and Schooling: What Should Their Relationship Be?" In this paper, Julian Stern makes three claims: (1) the need for a messy conversation; (2) the need to include "whole" people in schools; and (3) the need to consider existentially significant religious education. Schools are private enough to be genuinely personal, and not merely functional; they are public enough to be genuinely subject to external social and political requirements. We therefore need a willingness to tackle religion and to tackle sexuality that will help make better people, better communities, and perhaps even a better world. [For "Critical Exchange: Religion and Schooling: What Should Their Relationship Be?," see EJ1146822.]