Although the Southeast Asian refugees are regularly referred to only as Vietnamese, many are Cambodians, people different from the Vietnamese. It is true that Asian people have much more in common with one another than they have in common with non-Asians. While there are many attitudes and manners which Vietnamese and Cambodians share resulting from similarities of economics and geography, for instance, it is just as true and very important to human relations to recognize that Cambodians have a distinct and proud culture. This paper, composed by Cambodian individuals, is directed to Americans who hope to relate successfully to Cambodians. Quotations opening each section are taken from conversations with Cambodians who have made or are now making the adjustment to American life. Various sections informally cover topics such as Buddhist ethics and attitudes, similarities and differences between Vietnamese and Cambodians, behavior patterns such as patience and compliance, notions of idealism that Cambodians have about the United States, social standards, the concept of informality, patterns of responding such as tact, diplomacy, and withdrawal, the concept of sharing, manual labor, and adaptability. (Author/AM)