In this essay, told from my perspective as a white woman, I spend time critically analyzing the caricatures of racist white women as I hold them up against stories of actual white women. My goal is illuminate how stereotypes of white racist women serve as a normative yardstick for the construction of another kind of white woman: the antiracist one. Aspiring antiracist white women spend much time in search of white racist women embodied in such stereotypes. They search for them to learn how to be and how not to be. Ultimately, this is a distraction from the actual work of antiracism, which relies on relationality and intimacy. I argue white antiracist women would be better served to banish these stereotypes so our time can be spent -- not in search of them to measure ourselves -- but with our own complexity, inner conflicts and distorted psyches. Until we do that work, antiracist white women will be little help to racial justice movements.