Nichole Holtvluwer writes for fellow guides who work in the toddler community. Recognizing that communication with parents is the most important path to serving the child, Holtvluwer offers concrete advice beginning with the guide's most important stance: withholding judgment. She details four steps to working with parents or caregivers: building a relationship, providing knowledge, encouraging confidence, and finding excitement and joy. She concludes by suggesting that Montessori theory and parent education can be embedded into the issues that parents want to discuss, such as toileting. [This talk was presented at the NAMTA conference titled "The Social Relevance of the Montessori First Plane: Engaging Families, Building Partnerships, and Finding Common Ground with the Wider Early Childhood Community" in Dallas, TX, January 15-18, 2015.]