Inside the action learning community there are many very open accounts and considerations of specific challenges and general phenomena such as power, emotion, action and learning. 'Am I doing it right' (Pedler and Abbott 2008 ["Am I Doing it Right? Facilitating Action Learning for Service Improvement." "Leadership in Health Services" 21: 185-199]) is a key question for reflective practitioners, and they are invited to report experiences and 'produce theory from practice'. Despite all that information and reflection there is, from my perspective, a lack of information about how to become a facilitator. Even when looking back on their own early career challenges, such as Daniel Scott (2019a) ["Becoming a Midwife to Wisdom: A Retrospective Account of Practice of an Action Learning Facilitator, Action Learning." "Research and Practice" 16 (2): 151-158] most authors seem to be facilitators already, On my journey I identified some crucial experiences and conditions. These are highly individual and personal and they must, therefore, be actual, lived experiences. But I consider some of them to be generally applicable and believe they can help others when thinking about to become an action learning facilitator and/or to train action learning facilitators.