Intended for parenting classes of parents of young children having difficulty with discipline, this leader's guide and videotape paint a dramatic picture of the wrong way to discipline children and give clear practical ideas of how to talk to children using encouragement and effective reprimands to change behavior. The first part of the guide presents an overview of the videotape, specific viewing objectives, and questions for discussion. The remainder of the guide highlights elements of more positive discipline explored in the videotape, such as giving children choices, statements of encouragement, a framework for effective reprimand, giving children directions, a list of encouraging words, and suggestions for parents when their words are hurting their children. The accompanying video discusses why yelling at children does not succeed in making them behave appropriately, and explores the techniques of encouragement and positive discipline highlighted in the leader's guide. Using the context of a parenting support group discussion, the videotape emphasizes paying attention to when the child is behaving well, using encouraging phrases that describe child's actions rather than the child, using "I" messages (e.g., "I appreciate the way you and your brother..."), and showing physical affection. The videotape also demonstrates a framework for effectively reprimanding a child without insulting him or her: use the child's name, make eye contact, tell the child to stop the behavior, offer the child choices, and give a reason why the behavior must stop. (HTH)