This guide on parenting suggests ideas and methods to build self-esteem, courage, decision-making, and loving which are so important to child success and happiness. The introduction notes that this book is written for what seems to be the majority of parents who, despite the availability of much writing and other information on the subject of parenting, are still not sure how to do it. The guide covers destructive parental, school, and community attitudes which are active everywhere in society and which severely sabotage children's desires to be independent and to help themselves. These chapters are included: (1) "Motivational Deficit Disorder: Causes, Meanings, and Solutions"; (2) "Looking in the Mirror: Adult Problems Underlying Child Problems"; (3) "Excuse Psychology: The Diagnostic Lay-Away Plan"; (4) "Parenting by Questions: Finding A Way To Say Yes"; (5) "The Child Terrorist: Victory Strategies For Parent Hostages"; (6) "Fathers: The Missing Ingredient in Child Success"; (7) "School-Based Collaboration: Constructing A Partnership That Works"; (8) "Special Problems: Pregnancy, Substance Abuse, Divorce, Accidents, School Failure, and Suicide"; (9) "Questions and Answers On Automatic Pilot Parenting"; and (10) "Public Policy and Children." A bibliography is included. (ABL)