The press and scholars alike often bemoan the failure of civil public deliberation. Yet this insistence on civility excludes people who engage in adversarial tactics, limiting the ideas that are heard within deliberation. Drawing on a deliberative dialogue that occurred in Charlottesville, Virginia, in the aftermath of the deadly White Supremacist rally of 2017, this article reveals how the capacity of deliberation to be inclusive of diverse voices depends upon deliberators' orientation to learn from people who do not participate in deliberation. While much scholarship attends to learning "for" democracy, as in the preparation of young citizens, this article shows the significance of learning "in" democracy, as in the capacity of adults to learn in the midst of political strife.