This book was written for parents or anyone who works with children and families. The entertaining stories and practical ideas were gathered from the author's 20 years' experience working as a school psychologist and teaching parenting classes to over 14,000 parents. The examples put parents at ease and empower them with specific, positive strategies to replace their own behavior with patterns that produce more cooperative behavior in their children. It explains how to be consistent, manage anger, prevent arguments and power struggles, and teach children to listen...the first time! The book's chapters are: (1) "How Successful Parents Behave"; (2) "Redefining Discipline"; (3) "How Children Model"; (4) "You and Your Children Learn from Each Other"; (5) "Spotlight Good Behavior"; (6) "Never Give Away the Ice Cream"; (7) "Charts and Contracts"; (8) "How to Use Rules and Consequences"; (9) "How to Be Proactive"; (10) "How to Motivate Your Children"; (11) "Self-Esteem--Motivation's Heartbeat"; (12) "Being Consistent Can Make You Feel Dreadful"; (13) "How to Be More Consistent"; (14) "How Children Learn to Misbehave"; (15) "Why Children Push Your Button"; (16) "Use Punishments that Teach"; (17) "How to Punish Your Children without Punishing Yourself"; (18) "Spanking"; (19) "Correcting Misbehavior with Time-Out"; (20) "How to Manage a Child Who Refuses to Go to Time-Out"; (21) "How to Be Creative with Time-Out"; (22) "How to Manage Arguments and Power Struggles"; (23) "Reducing Attention Seeking"; (24) "Resolving Conflict between Siblings"; (25) "Responsibility, Chores and Allowance"; (26) "Homework Hassles"; (27) "Attention Deficits, Hyperactivity and Behavior"; (28) "Divorce and Behavior"; (29) "Peer Pressure"; and (30) "Promise to Appreciate." Contains an index. (EV)