This guide for building family/school/community partnerships uses a model in which family members and professionals are seen as mutual mentors in partnerships built on mutual caring, trust, and respect in the effort to work collaboratively toward self-sufficiency for children with disabilities. Basic ground rules for successful team relationships are listed, with practical tips for implementation. The rules include: get to know all members/potential members of the team; plan "huddles" (school meetings) at least 6 weeks in advance; prepare a written input statement including the team member's perspective regarding the child; tape record the meeting; engage in active listening; use clear, simple, and direct language; ask questions to clarify confusing/conflicting information; gain the perspective of others; engage in creative problem-solving; and recognize the validity of the child/family members' opinions. The interchangeable roles of coach, cheerleader, and referee on the team are distinguished. Special functions of the team captain or co-captains (who should be an older child or a family member) include minimizing surprises, emphasizing the child's strengths and capabilities, and engaging in action planning. (DB)