This monograph examines the emotions of love and fear and proposes that an individual's understanding of his loving and fearful responses is fundamental to his interactions with himself and with others. This guide is designed to facilitate such understanding. A definition of love is provided in chapter I and fear is explored in chapter II. Chapter III provides descriptions of loving and unloving (fear-based) behaviors, suggesting that these descriptions constitute a first step in changing behavior. In this chapter, feelings of fear are matched with possible behavioral and physiological effects. Desired behaviors, those which individuals may wish to increase, are paired with corresponding undesired behaviors which they may wish to decrease. A table is included which lists behavior pairs related to love and fear. In chapter IV, suggestions are given for how to monitor loving and unloving behavior. Various techniques are described for counting behaviors; charts are provided for recording behaviors on a daily, weekly, monthly, and yearly basis; and a formula is given for computing behavior frequency. Chapter V focuses on learning how to acquire new behaviors and change existing behaviors to become more loving. Four elements of learning are discussed and then incorporated into a description and planning sheet for behavior change. Both blank and completed description and planning sheets are provided. A brief conclusion section is followed by a list of references. (NRB)